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Tuesday, 15 September 2009


Hi Millie,

Just wanted to say Hi and let you know that I am thinking of you (here in Australia) and I really wish you all the best. I am going on holidays, so hopefully when I get back your beautiful baby girl will be home and snuggled up in your arms. Stay strong, try and keep yourself busy, even if it is watching your favourite TV shows and remember the stress and frustration will be all worth it when your baby girl finally arrives home.

I am wishing you peace.

I don't know what to say except I'm thinking of you every day and praying for the whole lot of you and hoping that everything works out and everyone gets what they need....especially that darling Baby Food.


You are in my thoughts. What a rough time.

Sending a big hug.

You know where I am, if you need to swear and shout. Feel free
to vent at me, not the poor Mister! Even better, how about getting some (temporary) real drums ;)

PS I am re-watching McNulty in season 4, in preparation for finally watching season 5. I have been postponing the inevitable as I do not want it to be the end, sob! What is up with his wild haircut though?? I want to take the scissors to his head. And how come I now think Prez is hot??? Is it the teacher thing??? Too weird!

I love how you're always not only able, but committed, to putting yourself in Ms. Food Network's place and think about it from her perspective. When you said, "While this week seems incredibly long to us I'm also sure it seems incredibly short to Ms FoodNetwork and her family," I wanted to stand up and cheer.

...And point out that in the very grand scheme of things, in the span of time you'll have with your child, it will be incredibly short.

Someone told me that during our hardest days with Charlie, and I had a hard time swallowing it just then, but it's all...redeemed now, you know?

Hang in, lovely people. I think you're doing beautifully.

I can't even imagine the stress and fear that must come up for all of you at times. I wish I had something else to say but know I'm thinking of you all and hoping that things eventually calm down and everything works out great for everyone involved.

If you haven't already seen it, might I recommed a little flick called Meet The Feebles? It's like the Muppets crossed with, with, with, well, with all sorts of wrong. You'll feel ill while you're laughing, wondering what kind of sick mind thought of this in the first place.

Why, that would be Peter 'I made the best travel ad EVER with Lord of The Rings' Jackson.

For other enjoyable mindlessness that requires no thinking, try any of the following: British Series' Hustle, Monarch of the Glen, At Home With the Braithwaites, Shameless, Dr Who (Christopher Eccleston/David Tennant), and that's all I can think of off the top of my head. American series (all available on Hulu): Wipeout, Burn Notice, Eureka, Glee, Hell's Kitchen, Kitchen Nightmares, Kingdom, SPACED, and Chuck...

I wish I could take away some of the current strain, but I think all you can do at the moment is breathe...

keep on keeping on.

22 or so years from now, you are going to be the parents your child will be proud to call a friend.

I just think the answer is so obvious. You are approaching it all wrong. The Wire is a great show, but you would feel a lot better about yourself as a person if you were watching the multiple seasons of Lost that you have missed out on.

All I can do is hold you and your whole family in my thoughts as I do every day and I can cook. So that's what I am doing. I am cooking. Chili of hope. Applesauce cake of faith. Mac and cheese of persistence but this time with a more assertive cheese. Chicken adobo of integrity and enchiladas of patience with a mango honesty salsa.

Hang in there! We are all pulling you. I must admit whenever I see you post that my heart starts pounding too-so if your pounds like that every time-I can't imagine!

I'm sorry this is so hard, but I understand why this is the only way to go. I'm hoping all is resolved soon.

Sending you good vibes. If I was in your shoes, I don't know if I could handle this. I suppose being infertile has taught you the precious art of patience - whether you wanted to learn it or not. Please keeping posting - even if it's to say you have nothing to say. I was getting worried.

Oh Millie... you know I'm over here thinking about you and your mister almost constantly. I wish that I could do more than just send the vibes of peace through the airwaves to you and every one involved. I know that you guys must be hanging on by a hair at some moments, but I also know you have complete faith in your consultant and you know what you want your adoption to be... and I know you guys will get there.... and yes, adoption can be a messy ordeal some times, no matter how gracious, honest and full of love you are. There are forces that are out of our control, and we just have to move with the waves of uncertainty... or be forced under, and hope we resurface. I love you guys. I wish I could hug you... not just send chocolate!

I hope it's a short wait. Hang in there!

love you, ms m.

(and you chose the very best diversion: jimmy mcnulty. yum.)

big kisses to all.

Goddamn, I admire you so much. You are everything, everything a child could hope for in its mother.

At the risk of offending you, I'm actually relieved to read that no human emotion is unknown to you, such as stress and frustration. Not that I wish these upon you, not at all.

But I was starting to think that
A) you're a saint and should be venerated accordingly
B) this blog is the figment of someone's imagination
C) you're vulcan.

Now I really have offended you. Oh well, it's a diversion of sorts.

In all seriousness, I'm hoping for you to finally move out of limbo into parenthood.

Dead Like Me - Showtime series that was canceled all too soon - a really great quirky black comedy series. Just my thoughts on another one if you don't know of it already.

Thinking of you all the time. Hoping and praying for the outcome you so richly deserve.

Love to you and the mister.

My wishes for you and the mister are that Friday gets here NOW! And no more speed bumps.

Thinking about you daily...sometimes several times a day.

I'm sorry its been so hard. I hope that whatever happens is ultimately the right thing for u and Ms. FN. and yeah- i know what u mean about a long torturous week.

As I listen to your goddaughter yell at Swiper (from Dora) in the other room, I think back to how much you and I have been through together over the years. All I can say is that I am wishing, hoping and yes, praying, for you and your man every night (along with your goddaughter). I pray for your happiness and for your becoming forever parents.

If you run out of strength, I've got more for you. If you need to snap/cry/whine/curse, my ear is always here. You, my friend, define goodness, reason, and stability. You've been my rock when I've been adrift and lost. You, my friend, are a treasure in my life.

Know this and feel the C/S family love. Let it buoy you through to Friday and beyond.

aiy. first let me sy happy belated bday! sounds like it was just what you needed.

what a week. such a tough place to be, yet your compassion for ms. fn speaks volumes about your heart. not an easy situation for anyone, yet you are making the best of it. what else can you do?

I know you can't feel strong at every moment, but keep breathing through those tough ones.

oh, and deadwood and the wire got us through some crazy hairy times. go you. we're on bsg now.


The adoption of our son took 5 weeks, from the time we met him at 2 weeks old, until his birth mother signed the papers and he was able to come home with us. I know exactly how you feel right now. Everyday wondering, bonding with a beautiful baby, it is a million times harder than any infertility treatment I had ever done. Keep the faith (I can say this now 2.5 years out). You will all be in my thoughts and I have my fingers crossed for you that you will get to bring your sweet baby home.

Sweetie!!! Still here rooting for you guys!!! " While this week seems incredibly long to us I'm also sure it seems incredibly short to Ms FoodNetwork and her family." this is extremely eloquent and empathetic. Hang in there...

I am so sorry that this has been so difficult. I know there is nothing I can say because you already know. I learned much of what you said very quickly. I just kept telling myself...I will become a mother, and that shortly we would know if this would be our baby, and whatever may happen, it is worth the try! I hope it all works out for you and I will be thinking all the positive thoughts I can for you guys! Hang in there.

I'm so amazed by your strength and courage through all of this.

I just keep thinking and hoping that once that baby is very comfortably in your arms and snuggled with her Daddy that all of this will melt away.

Hang in there. Thinking of you.

I'm thinking about you two lots and wishing everyone involved peace. I can't imagine how very difficult this is on all parties and hope a resolution that everyone is happy with occurs soon.

Still crossing fingers and toes and sending out good thoughts.

Reading along and thinking about you guys...It's almost Friday!

The Wire is treated like the eighth wonder of world around here. For some reason, South Park is my favorite diversion.

Tomorrow! Tomorrow! It's Friday! Tomorrow!

It's only a day away!

Just sending lots of peaceful thoughts and hopes to speed up time for you. I can tell that this is incredibly difficult, but I admire you so much for being so committed to doing things ethically for everyone involved. Adoption is such a messy situation, and ultimately it needs to be about what's best for the child. The way you are doing it, with loving parents on both sides who have full knowledge and transparency about the whole process, is what's best for this baby girl.

I hope she is home with you soon.

I'm pretty speechless here, except to empathize and pray that this gets easier. As always, I admire your ability to be so good and so kind.

Sending you love and support and HOPE. Try to get through this time as zenfully as you can.

As far as I am concerned you and the Mister are candidates for "sainthood". Your honesty, fairness, openness are truly beautiful. Sure you might have bad moments but with you they are moments - they are not constant, consistent or mean-spirited. You are able to take an umbrella/helicopter view of the whole situation. Millie you are awesome and deserving and tenacious and will cross that finish line to mommyhood very soon.

God Bless you both and baby Eleanor and the FoodNetwork Family.

My cheeks hurt. The ones I sit on. Because they are so clenched up in nervous anticipation. I can only imagine what yours feel like (ooooh...they're NICE!!).

One more sleep.....One more sleep.....

Tomorrow. Tomorrow, we love you tomorrow, you're baby will come to you tomorrow. It will be Friday soon. Stay strong Mamma.

Anxiously waiting and wanting to hear that this has moved on. Limbo is a terrible place to be. THis has been so long....

Anxiously waiting for good news Friday! You are in my thoughts!

Ok, it's officially Friday where I am. You're not quite there, but this still counts as a "Whew----you made it to Friday!" comment.
What*a*week. Getting closer, Millie. We're all with you.


Oh, Millie, I've been about this post for days and trying to come up with something to say. I can hear the fatigue in this post. I hope things are still moving forward. I'm thinking of you.

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