After a few rounds of emails and some patient waiting (not to mention a great deal of impatient waiting) on our parts, the mister and I are meeting with the adoption consultant tomorrow.
For two hours! That is going to be an awful lot of words. How will the mister deal with it?
I was getting a bit frustrated with how long it was taking just to get this appointment. But then she said this in her last email:
Your home study did come and I have read it – very impressive accomplishments!
So I think she's going to like us and I hope she'll think will be a good fit for her services. I'm not thrilled about having a meeting where we might need to write a big check just after we sent several big checks to our lovely state capitol and dear ol' Uncle Sam.* I think we can come up with the dough in a timely manner.
Do you think we should tell her we nearly showed up on her doorstep
last week? We drove out to one of our favorite beaches with the dogs on
Sunday and drove right by her house.
Anyway, back to the meeting. She wants us to come with a long list of questions. I only have a couple:
- How soon can you help us find a match?
- What do we need to do to match quickly?
We did a lot of research and we know a lot about her services so I'm pretty comfortable with that. She's known for being super-ethical so I don't have many worries there (though that is one of my biggest worries regarding adoption in general).
Help me internets, what should I add to my list of questions?
*Yes we really did drive to the main post office to mail our checks last night at 10:45. We had more than an hour to spare. Why was the mister so worried?
Hmmm . . . how about what kind of back up / support is there if your baby is born out of state?
Good Luck with the meeting!
Posted by: beagle | Wednesday, 16 April 2008 at 14:31
It's wonderful that you are so close to your interview. I hope things go smoothly and quickly for you. I have missed your blogging. How about...If they find a match, how long do have to think about it? Daisy
Posted by: Daisy | Wednesday, 16 April 2008 at 15:22
Oh, I'm just thrilled for you!!! I wish you tons and tons of luck. How exciting!
Posted by: PBfish | Wednesday, 16 April 2008 at 16:08
Wow, that's great! Can't wait to hear how it went.
Posted by: Summer | Wednesday, 16 April 2008 at 17:06
Back in the 1980's I had a boyfriend that introduced me to the joys of waiting to the last minute of paying taxes. We'd go to the main post office in downtown LA to enjoy the spectacle of the protesters.
Since then I've graduated to filing my extension on the last day and then holding out until October 15th to file.
Why do we prolong the torture?
Posted by: Linda | Wednesday, 16 April 2008 at 18:48
Check into her financials to make sure she's honest financially. Ask for a reference list of people who used her througout the year and CALL ALL OF THEM! Check her out on adoptionagencyratings.com.
Posted by: Trace | Thursday, 17 April 2008 at 07:56
Woo hoo! Absolutely what Trace said about references, especially recent ones. I can't think of any questions to ask that you probably haven't thought of already, but it will be important to really listen to her choice of words when she answers your questions about her services to get a better idea of what her philosophy about adoption is, and how it will be to work with her.
Can't wait to hear how the meeting goes today! Good luck!
Posted by: Kay/Hanazono | Thursday, 17 April 2008 at 10:51
I would ask about:
1. what kinds of things you can do to improve your chances
2. What happens if a placement falls through.
3. How often do they fall through (might as well be aware)
4. I like the question about "out of state" - that can be tricky.
Hope all goes GREAT tomorrow!!!
Posted by: Nearlydawn | Thursday, 17 April 2008 at 19:13