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Wednesday, 13 February 2008


Wow- tough call. I spent years living in job limbo doing consulting stuff and I'm not sure how I feel about whether it was worth it. On the one hand, it allowed me to be flexible when appointments, etc. came up. On the other hand, it allowed me to wallow in it all (IF) for too much of my day. I think if I knew what I knew now (that it took way damn longer than I thought), I'd have looked for something more full-time earlier. Good luck sorting it out.

That's a tough one. Rick and I also want one of us to stay home until our child is in preschool. It was the reason that when I decided to leave my firm two years ago, I went out on my own instead of going to a new firm. I was still doing treatment and didn't want to commit to a new firm and then up and leave. It worked for me. But I wouldn't have had the option of flex-time or part-time and Rick certainly doesn't so we didn't have the same choices. Having said that, now that I have said baby, I am really glad I have no pressure to go back to a full time job.

By the way I also have some background in developmental child psychology.

I say move ahead as if the baby's not happening. I say that not to be discouraging about the possibility of a child, but because if you don't you'll spend every second of your waiting time sitting around letting infertility take, take, take from you.

If it happens quickly, well, it's not as if you whimsically decided it would be like that. Like always, you'll roll with whatever comes about. There's only so much responsibility you can accept for things you have no control over.

Still doesn't help you with the usual consultant/FTE debate, of course, but takes the hypothetical kid out of the equation.


What Bea said. Also, good for you for doing that training! Getting trained was my favorite part of that volunteer org, and the part I miss the most now that I've "retired." I'm sure the others (in both groups) really appreciate your hard work!

I always need someone else rueing the universe for me. Thanks for your kind thoughts.

I say go for it, you never know what will happen and in the meantime it sounds like a great position.

Ah, this was the story of my life (deciding on jobs based on hypothetical kids).

So...No words of advice.

Hurry up and get that profile done! I am sure it will be gorgeous!

If you can manage treatment/adoption etc. with this job then go for it.
Having a baby is still your priority, so that's what you need to protect now.
The choices won't get any easier once the baby comes, but you have a view on how you want things so you'll change what you need to then.

It's a difficult decision to make, but I guess whatever happens you just have to make the best choice you can at teh time and not second guess things afterwards when things happen. Or babies.


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