I don't know if y'all know but that's what my man decided. He brought me breakfast in bed and told me I got to do whatever the hell I wanted to today. Anything went.
So I had a morning full of coffee, papers (Saturday and Sunday ones), Footballers Wives (oh my goodness how this series seriously rates among guitly pleasures--and BBC America was nice enough to have a marathon just for me today) while someone else took the dogs for a long much needed hike and did laundry. Love that mister.
Nice, eh?
Then we went to the mall to walk a bit, grab a hotdog for lunch and catch a flick. I've been toying with the idea of going back to work tomorrow so I even drove the whole 1.2 miles to the mall. Not sure I can handle the 90 mile roundtrip required for work yet (and note that I only said I drove TO the mall--not even round trip).
I also splurged on a new pair of super comfy, super stretch black pants at J Jill. I thought the full retail price would nearly kill me but it didn't. I'm still many pounds up from my presurgery weight and can't stand real waistbands. I can get by with yoga pants/sweats at home but needed something a bit better for work.
Then we saw The Break Up. I know it's getting lousy reviews. I wanted to support Jennifer A and an old friend from college (the director who once force- fed me pop tarts at 2 am in a friends dorm room and I've been following his career ever since). Both the mister and I really, really liked it. I was trying not to laugh too hard because I didn't want to bust a stitch. I don't get the lousy reviews. I'm not even on pain pills today so that doesn't explain it. It was about a break up. Not how a couple gets together. Anyway, I thought my pop-tart wielding friend did a fab job.
I guess I don't have to decide until tomorrow if I'm going in but it's not looking too likely at this point. My incisions are really, really sore. My entire abdomen is one huge purple bruise. The incisions are small , but as a friend reminded me, yesterday they go all the way to my core. The back of my left hand is still very sore from where the iv was inserted. I also have very little stamina. I wasn't working back when I had the last ectopic surgery so I wasn't sure how long I should take off. I talked to a friend yesterday who's had 2 and she recommended a full week. My new doc said to play it by ear. If I could work half days or get to work without driving it wouldn't be such a big deal.
Ok, now time to see if I can fit a nap in before bedtime. I'm serious. I know it sounds crazy but it's too early to go to bed for the night and I'm completely wiped.
Oh and I didn't mean to start a whole thing with my last post about doctor's. I'll try to rectify what I meant once my brain is a little clearer.
I'm curious, do you want to return soon for the distraction, or for other reasons? Hoping that you can wait to return once you have some stamina back. Just the commute alone sounds exhausting.
Posted by: Tonya | Sunday, 04 June 2006 at 20:23
When I was at the purple palace, I noticed that the big cheese, DF, used to wear jeans, t-shirts, and would go around bare foot. I thought that rocked.
There are some departments that are ultra casual, and some that are dressy. I guess you'll know more when you get there. I think that the engineers tend to be more laid back for some reason. :-)
Posted by: Linda | Sunday, 04 June 2006 at 22:13
I hope you take all the time you need to heal, but be careful about laying around too much - you don't want to get adhesions. Walk every day a couple of times if you can. But more, take the time to heal inside.
I'm glad the mister is taking such good care of you - hugs to him too.
Posted by: Avonlea | Monday, 05 June 2006 at 05:02
Dear Millie, I'm so sorry about your ruptured ectopic. The words "Can't you catch a break?" are being decisively answered, over and over again.
Please take it easy for longer than you think you strictly need to. Your body has been through major trauma and needs time to heal. I'm so glad you're in such warm and loving hands.
Posted by: Kath | Monday, 05 June 2006 at 05:18
Get some rest. You certainly deserve it. Work will wait.
Posted by: chris | Monday, 05 June 2006 at 05:29
Oh Millie, I hope you stayed home today. You need the time to rest and heal.
Everytime you write about your husband I think about what a great guy he is. I'm so glad you have each other.
Posted by: fisher queen | Monday, 05 June 2006 at 05:46
I'm sorry - and yes, rest, but when you go back to work, Chic.o's also has good stretchy pants. You'll be the youngest person in there (by far), but the pants are good.
Posted by: Suz | Monday, 05 June 2006 at 06:16
I hope that you're feeling better with every passing day, but also hope that you take it easy until you feel like you are able to go back to work. Pushing it too fast can set you back. I've done that before when I've had surgery and I ended up with a longer recovery and more time out of work after I went back too soon.
Take care of yourself!!
Roni
Posted by: Roni | Monday, 05 June 2006 at 06:24
Doesn't sound to me as if you are well enough to go to work yet, but that's just me. 90 miles sounds like too much driving...
Hope you are feeling a bit better. I don't do footballer's wives myself, but I know people who do...
Posted by: thalia | Monday, 05 June 2006 at 09:40
You have a heck of a commute, honey! I have abt 25 miles each way, and sometimes that is exhausting...I can't imagine having to go another 20.
Take as much time as you need... Maybe there is something you can do at home in the next few days? Sending healing thoughts and prayers,
Posted by: Louise | Monday, 05 June 2006 at 11:44
Goodness Gracias Lady! We haven't spoken in a while and wow... While I am very sorry that you had to go through the ruptured tube, I am glad that the decision of whether or not to remove the tube is out of your hands at this point...
I read through your past several posts here and your pt about things being easy and good things happening BEFORE vs now, really struck home for me... I've been trying to deal with it by realizing that if I look outside of this lense called I-N-F-E-R-T-I-L-I-T-Y much of it (the good things) still remain true. Be strong my sister and join me in NOT letting this stuff define us (anymore then it already has)... Am I being too esoteric here? We'll have to chat about it in person...
OK on the Jennifer Aniston front, I actually never thought she and Brad Pitt made a very good couple, so I'm glad to see her moving on. Hopefully she will find the right fit soon - be it Vince or someone else..
COOL NEWS about Helen Feidling - YOU GO GIRL!!!
I'm traveling right now, but thinking of you. I'll call you when I return home, at the end of this week.
xoxx, Neighbor Fran
P.S. Hug the Mister for me. xo
Posted by: Fran | Monday, 05 June 2006 at 16:40