three years and counting

Today is my anniversary. This one is leather and crystal/glass. AKA lucky number three.

Last year I was really sad on this date. It was very bittersweet. The first ivf failure was still fresh. The previous year's anniversary which, while very celebratory but resulted in an ectopic pregnancy, was still raw. My, how times change!

It is so incredible freeing to be moving on today of all days. I can really celebrate my husband and my marriage. We're both incredibly excited about our upcoming trip. It's been a long, hard three years but we're closer and stronger than ever. I have so much to be grateful for and today I'm focusing on that.

Three years ago I didn't sleep much because I was so excited. We were both fairly calm on our wedding day. The mister helped our florist set out arrangements. She commented on his lack-of-stress and he said "Why would I be stressed? I'm marrying the most wonderful person today. There's nothing to be stressed about."

I wasn't very stressed either. My coordinator called me her 'zen bride.' Of course, I was her first bride but I do think I was fairly zen. I was focused on having a good marriage and the wedding was just one day. I wanted a marriage that would last for decades. It helped me let go of the things that just didn't matter and focus on the goal. It also made our wedding pretty damn fun because we just wanted to celebrate with our loved ones.

I think I feel the same way about building a family. I want to be a parent--however that happens. The longer I've dealt with infertility the more I am able to focus on that goal. I'm extremely grateful that the mister and I want the same thing-to be parents and have a family together. I know that will happen.

Now, if I can just find some leather present to go along with the new wine glasses. We're definitely toasting tonight!

Comments

[chris]

Congratulations. You sound like you're in a really good place.

[wessel]

Happy Anniversary, Millie. :-) You sound so peaceful, and that's got to be a good omen for things to come.

[Bonnie]

Happy anniversary! I think there's a lot of wisdom in this post. Focus on the goal.

[Emily]

Happy anniversary my dear friend. I'm so glad you are so happy.

I was the same way on my wedding day. I didn't care what happened, I was going to marry the most amazing man on the planet so everything else didn't matter.

[Sheryl]

Happy Anniversary!!!

[Donna]

Happy belated anniversary, I hope you continue the celebration through the weekend. And I really want to know what the leather gift was. Anything saucy?

[Karen]

Happy anniversary! May this be the best year ever for you.

[Avonlea]

Oh gosh Mille, can you really not think of a leather present? How about this:

http://www.cheaperthandirt.com/ctd_images/product_images/777/TRW-120.jpg

Just a thought (albeit a dirty one...)

Happy Anniversary to Millie and Mr. Millie. He's a very lucky guy to have you and tell him there are hundreds of people in the computer who think this.

[nina]

How about buying lovely leather travel bags for your upcoming trip to SA?
After reading Liana's blog, I hope your trip will be just as wonderful (with a similarily wonderful outcome).
I'm glad you're now connecting your anniversary date with happy thoughts and good memories.
Happy belated anniversary and best wishes for many happy years ahead.

[thalia]

Happy anniversary my sweet. May your next few months be the best yet for your marriage, following Liana's example!

[Nina]

M - Hope you had a very happy anniversary! :)

[mm]

Hope your anniversary was glorious and that your leather present was more naughty than nice!