time to crack some eggs

Now, I knew the news from the Mister's work just had to be too good to be true. There are a few catches.

Like there are only a couple of local clinics that are covered. Any of mine? Clinic #1 that I HATE. A co-worker of the mister's feels the same way about them. I believe her words were 'they suck rocks.' Frankly, rocks are too good for this partic clinic.

It would be cool if EITHER of the major teaching universities with clinics were covered. Mostly because one of them is my fave local clinic. You guessed it. Neither of them are covered.

There is a pretty good local clinic that's covered but I don't know if I've got the energy to deal with another clinic. This one likes to use an in-house donor agency but they charge several appendages. I don't really have any to spare.

Ok, what about Garden State? Nope. Not covered. The clinic in my home state where I'm on what seems to be a very theoretical wait list for donor embryos? Also not covered.

Anyone see a theme?

So I did some research today. It would cost about the same to go abroad as just our portion would be if we stayed here. Crazy that we'd get 17k in coverage and the costs would equal out. We can always use that coverage later or for #2.

Last week I was pretty close to just finally making the call to go to Cape Town. I was, however, still thinking about ivm in our neighbor to the north and one of you was super sweet and shared some great info with me. I truly, truly appreciate it. I stayed up all night looking for short term rentals near that clinic. I found some great places and thought of all the fun I could have.

I started thinking about timing. I wanted to cycle there in November but I don't think it would be a great time for me to leave for a couple of weeks. I'm the acting general contractor for our remodel. I put off calling the clinic. The psychologist in me may be buried deep down but even I know that means something.

Then I realized I want a higher possibility of success. I'm just done. So very, very done. An incredibly wise woman pointed that out to me in a long phone call just the other day. I wish I could have worked out the timing better and we could have gone together.

I should have my letter to the donor finished by tomorrow. The mister agreed and we'll have an awesome trip come January. Or February at the latest.

We'll even get to go on safari. And when it comes right down to it, who doesn't want to go on a fab trip and come home with the best souvenirs of all?

It feels sooooooooo very good to have a decision and a plan.

Comments

[Emily]

I hear ya! I'm so very, very done too. I'm so happy you have a plan and will be off this horrible roller coaster soon! Crossing everything for you.

xo,

[Kate]

I spoke with the dear dr in charge of the theoretical embryo donation program the other day. He said they would be mailing out forms in "a few days." Did you get any? Because I sure didn't and I'm just down the road.

Plans are so good. It feels great to be doing something. I wish you the best, and definitely swin by at Christmas if you're around!

[wessel]

I know just how you feel, wanting those higher success rates. And the 12K total price package deal at CT just can't be beat. I mean, come on, that includes airfare for two!! We almost went there but you know that story--her donor supply was really low at the time. I hear she has 30 new donors now.

Wishing you so much luck, Millie. And if I get to do my FET in January as planned, MAYBE we will be pregnant at the same time! That would be so swell. I'm ready. Over ready.

[thalia]

Millie I'm delighted by your plan and still v impressed by your husband. What a lovely
man to fight for that coverage.

We did a SA safari on honeymoon - let me know if you want to chat about where we went. It was wonderful!

[Liana]

Hey lady!

Wow, am I wise? :-) Nah, just done with the wishing, hoping, and praying for my own overcooked eggs and ready to move to hopefully be able to focus on the baby and not more shots and 2WWs. I sensed similar vibes from you, my dear, even with 3000 miles between us.

Hey hey, I got my tickets today!

[Bonnie]

I could sense you were getting really close to wanting to get on with it and step off the rollercoaster a couple of months ago.

I'm really happy for you.

Do you have any details about your donor?

Wouldn't that be awesome if all these DE babies were really cooking by Valentine's Day?

[Pamplemousse]

Ooh, I love a plan, especially if it includes DE. I am glad that you are sounding much more positive and filled with optimism.

[JennaM]

Yes, success rate is so big at this point. As I peruse the catalogues these days, I skip right over all the cuteness and talent and go right for number of eggs and number of successful transfers...

Bon Voyage! Bon Chance! (or however they'd say that in Cape Town...)

[Nina]

Your plan sounds great. So happy for you!!

[Anna H.]

I'm so happy for you, Millie! A plan is a wonderful thing...

xxoo