Welcome, little one

So the Mister and I went a visting Sunday afternoon. Friends of ours from our infertility support group had their baby and we were all ready to meet her.

This is a big deal because it's the first real, live baby for our group. We met as 5 infertile couples nearly a year ago in a support group. We had 10 weeks with a faciliator and since then have been on our own.

For you infertiles out there who haven't tried a group, I HIGHLY recommend it. It's so incredible to have people that totally 'get it' and a safe place where you can deal with your feelings.

It's funny because our facilitator has been running these groups for a long time. She says in all those years she's never gotten a call from a man asking about the group or wanting to join. Yet, often the men get the most from the groups.

We women do a pretty good job of finding support. I found support for our infertility in some fairly unlikely places: wedding land, high fsh boards, the mister's place of employment, even a women's only service organization to which I belong. And of course here in blogland. (That kind of goes without mentionning it these days).

But men have a much harder time of it, I think. That's one of the reasons I'm so happy to see the guys like baby hungry man. I think that's such a wonderful thing.

So our little group became very close. It was a little hard when there was one pregnancy, but we still outnumbered them. Then there was another. Then a third. Then a horrible loss (ectopic), and then another ectopic, and now twins!

There are two of us left that aren't pregnant and sometimes that's pretty hard. I think I started the group knowing on some level that we'd be the last ones standing. I'm the oldest in the group and have the highest FSH. That's still likely to be true. We might be the only couple that doesn't have genetic children but the awesome thing is that I know we'll all have children soon. That's likely to be hard for different reasons but I know we'll do just fine with the support of this group and our other support networks.

So, on Sunday we went to meet the newest member of our group. She's tiny and incredibly gorgeous. She has an easy to spell and pronouce name (even if it refers to a Shakespearean daughter not known for her filial loyalty) which as you know is a plus in my book.

We took food (a casserole and brownies because you know what they say about Southern girls...you can take the girl out of the South but you can't...well, you get it).

And we promptly feel in love. Her parents are in a state of bliss. I hope that we can all join them there, however we get there. That's my wish for us all today.

Comments

[pam]

Ahh Millie--what a lovely post. Thank you for that wish. We will all get there. (We will.)

[Orodemniades]

Regan?

Because that's the only one I can think of off the top of my head, and I knew a girl named Regan in college, that's why.